Eight ways to avoid holiday stress – and actually come home relaxed

There was a time, in the not-too-distant past, when going on holiday was a chance to escape from the stresses of life and truly switch off. You would often be unreachable; you couldn’t take your work with you, and you could be present and fully in the moment.

Now, instead of a time to relax, recharge, and unplug, holidays have become coloured by the stress of planning, preparing and getting behind at work.

It may take days to switch off, and you may find you’re only truly relaxed just in time for the journey home. Clinical psychologist Dr Tracy King explains why this happens: “We can’t expect a holiday to repair months of accumulated stress in the same way we expect a paracetamol to take away a headache. In fact, space and fewer demands can mean we experience more stress that was unable to be fully processed when we were in ‘firefighting mode’, batting away demand after demand of life.”

Three key points as students receive A-level results

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Record levels of A*’s for sixth formers has meant that nearly 263,000 UK pupils have already been accepted on to university courses.

Here are three things to know from this year’s A-level results.

Record proportion of A-level students get top grades in England

More than a quarter (28.5 per cent) of UK entries were awarded an A or A* grade, up by 0.2 percentage points on last year, with 9.6 per cent getting the top A* grade, according to the Joint Council for Qualifications (JCQ).

This saw 228,990 university offer holders get their first choice.

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Boys outperform girls at top A-level grades for second year in row

Boys have outperformed girls for the second year in a row and the gap is widening. The percentage of boys’ grades that were A* or A was 28.9 per cent, pulling ahead of the 28.0 per cent achieved by girls, according to the JCQ.

BATH, UNITED KINGDOM - AUGUST 20: Pupils from Hayesfield Sixth Form celebrate as Lily Byham (L) opens her results of three A grades at A-level on August 20, 2009 in Bath, United Kingdom. Results published today for more than 310,000 students across England, Wales and Northern Ireland showed that a quarter of A-levels were graded an A as students across the UK celebrated another year of record results. (Photo by Matt Cardy/Getty Images)
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Last year boys got 28.4 per cent and girls achieved 28.2 per cent of the top grades. However, female students made up a greater proportion of entries and got a higher number of A* and A grades overall.

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Regional divide widens in England

The gap between the highest- and lowest-performing regions in England has grown to a record level.

In London, 32.7 per cent of A-level grades were marked at A* or A, up from 32.1 per cent last year. In the North East and the East Midlands, it’s 23.1 per cent.

That’s a 9.6 percentage point gap – up from 9.2 last year and is the largest between these regions since the present system of grading began in 2010.

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Universities at risk of going bust before 2026 freshers finish their degrees

Bankruptcies, mergers and course closures are expected to accelerate from 2030 because of a sharp drop-off in British students, according to analysts.

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The secretive Russian weapons powerhouse Ukraine is targeting next

Moscow was incensed after Ukraine hit an oil refinery hundreds of miles inside Russia this week.

The Ukrainian drone strike

Local officials said 13 people, including a child had been killed, making it one of the deadliest attacks on a Russian city since 2022.

The drone strike hit the Taneco refinery in Nizhnekamsk. Nizhnekamsk lies in the Republic of Tatarstan and is a top oil producer and refining hub that is central to the war effort.

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A factory essential for Moscow’s war effort

What is most worrying for Putin is that barely an hour’s drive north of Nizhnekamsk is the sprawling Alabuga Special Economic Zone (SEZ) in Yelabuga.

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It has become central in the production of suicide drones, first making Shahed drones in conjunction with Iran and now making the Russian Geran drones.

An important target

  • Satellite imagery revealed rapid expansion at the drone factory early this year, with it reportedly making 170 to 190 every day.
  • The threat posed by the factory makes it a key target, and Ukraine’s rapid advances in weapons technology have brought it into range.
  • Ukraine targeted the factory in 2024 and 2025, but only inflicted limited damage.

How Ukraine could disrupt the factory’s production

  • Luke Coffey, senior fellow at the Hudson Institute, said that Ukraine could target nearby energy and electrical infrastructure to impact the production.
  • Options from other experts included targeting supply chains via direct rail links from China, or hitting it multiple times a week to force Russia to give up production.
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The Surrey village where it hasn’t rained for two months

The village of Wisley, located between Cobham and Woking, has gone 56 consecutive days without rainfall, a record-breaking streak that is posing risks to prized plants, wildlife and residents.

Vegetation affected

Home to RHS Garden Wisley, which welcomes more than a million visitors each year, Surrey is known for its trees as England’s most densely-wooded county.

People look out from a viewpoint at Newlands Corner, near Guildford, southwest of London, on August 2, 2026, over dry fields, turned brown from the heat of the sun and the lack of rain. England and Wales were on course for the driest July since records began nearly 200 years ago, the Met Office said on Friday, amid a prolonged heatwave and exceptionally low rainfall. (Photo by Peter Nicholls / AFP via Getty Images)
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However, visitors to the charity’s flagship garden are concerned about how the prolonged dry and hot conditions are impacting the once green surroundings.

RHS Garden Wisley is still staying strong

RHS director of gardens and horticulture, Tim Upson, said while the wider treescape at Wisley remains green and key areas of the garden continue to look good, some parts have been impacted by the prolonged summer heat.

“Some trees, such as the Common Birch, Betula pendula, around the periphery of the garden are yellowing with early leaf drop,” he said.

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Wildfire fears

Lowland heathland reserves such as Wisley and Ockham Commons are highly prone to fires – and these can have a devastating effect on the complex web of flora and fauna (…) Without the checks provided by rainfall, these fires can spread rapidly (…) and have devastating effects on rare wildlife.

James Herd, director of reserves management at Surrey Wildlife Trust
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Do some foods leave
you feeling hungry rather than satiated? Experts say there are…

Foods that leave you hungrier

A bowl of cereal and glass of orange juice

More refined cereals are digested quickly, and fruit juice, whilst one of your five-a-day, contains less fibre than whole fruit. This might mean you find yourself hungry again within 1-2 hours of eating this breakfast.

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Swap the orange juice for a whole orange, the cereal for oats and milk or serve it with Greek yoghurt or a boiled egg. This would increase the fibre and protein content; two nutrients strongly linked with fullness.

Foods that leave you hungrier

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These pastries are made primarily from refined flour and butter, and are relatively low in protein and fibre.

Toast and jam

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Shop-bought packs can contain a lot of white rice, which is digested quickly, and the protein content is often modest.

Foods that leave you hungrier

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Vegetable soup

On its own, it is often very low in protein and calories, so hunger can return quickly.

Unless it’s loaded with veggies, it’s probably pretty low in fibre.

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Liquids are generally less filling as they require little chewing which may not trigger satiety signals.

Foods that leave you hungrier

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Snack bars

They are ideal for a quick pick-me-up, but if reducing hunger is what you’re after, it’d be better to swap it out.

Low-fat yoghurt

A full-fat plain Greek yoghurt with berries and seeds tends to be much more filling due to the protein, fat and fibre.

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BANGKOK, THAILAND - OCTOBER 17: A "KT Herbalist", a Kratom cocktail made from Kratom, coffee and siamese herbs is seen at Teens of Thailand, a bar in Bangkok's Chinatown on October 17, 2021 in Bangkok, Thailand. In April 2021, the start of Thailand's third and most deadly wave of the COVID-19 pandemic, the Thai government banned the sale of alcohol in restaurants and bars, crippling the already suffering food and beverage industry. With a lack of government aid and support, some bars have shuttered their doors in hopes of reopening post-lockdown, while others shuttered their doors for good. But six months into Thailand's most recent lockdown, Niks Anuman-Rajadhon, owner of Teens of Thailand, a gin bar located in a renovated shophouse in Bangkok's Chinatown, decided that instead of waiting for the government to allow the sale of alcohol again, they would take advantage of Thailand's recent legalization of Kratom. Kratom is a locally grown herbal drug with mild opioid and stimulant effects and was reclassified from a type-5 narcotic to a legal-to-grow herb in August 2021. While Thailand prepares for a tentative reopening on November 1st, the alcohol ban and curfew are set to continue, leaving business owners questioning if the country can revive its suffering tourism industry. (Photo by Lauren DeCicca/Getty Images)

On an empty stomach, it can actually increase your appetite.

What to eat instead

Instead of thinking about avoiding foods, think about what you can add to them.

  • Add beans, lentils or shredded chicken to your vegetable soup and pasta.
  • Thicken your smoothies with Greek yoghurt, chia seeds and oats.
  • Apple slices with peanut butter, yogurt with berries and hummus with oat biscuits are better snack options than a pre-made snack bar.
  • Have alcohol alongside a balanced meal containing protein and fibre.

How to age well
without pain

Will Harlow, a physiotherapist
for the over-50s and author of Independence for Life, shares
the key signs you’re ageing
badly – and what to do about it.

How to know

Ageing well is maintaining the ability to do what you want you want for as long as you want without needing help. Everyone is talking about longevity but what’s the point in living longer if the last decade is painful and you’re [totally] reliant on people?”

The signs to look out for

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  • The most obvious early warning sign of bad ageing is pain says Harlow. 
  • Another is losing confidence in doing daily tasks, which can quickly lead to a lack of independence.
  • One call Harlow often receives is people calling after having a fall and struggling to get up.

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How to age without pain

Not just stopping

When people retire, they often put their feet up and stop. Your body really is use it or lose it.

Throughout our entire lives, Harlow says we need between seven and nine hours of sleep.

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Social isolation

The lack of connection can increase the risk of premature death by
as much as 29 per cent.

Strength training

It really is the proxy for
overall independence.

The more muscle mass you have, the less chance of heart disease, diabetes, falls and even anxiety, depression and dementia. 

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The brain can be linked to muscle mass too, Harlow says. It’s not just about being able to lift things. It gives you more energy, better sleep and you’ll look and feel better.

How to age without pain

Daily habits

Do short bursts of exercise, between 30 and 60 seconds, in otherwise dead time during the day.

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Stretch in bed

Take joints through a full range of motion for five minutes to loosen it before getting up.

Don’t crash diet

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How to age without pain

Protein shake and chocolate protein powder in a scoop, Sports nutrition.

Harlow advises 1.6 grams per kilogram of body weight to stop muscle loss alongside resistance training.

Don’t wait

Harlow finds that many patients put off making a change to their lifestyle until their lives are consumed by pain. 

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For most people, it’s about reducing the number of times per week you’re exercising, not reducing intensity. 

The three ageing tests to do

  • Lie completely flat on the floor and get back up to a standing position using any technique. This should take less than 10 seconds.

  • See how many times you can sit on the chair and stand back up again in 30 seconds. Men should be aiming for more than 14 times and women 12. 

  • The single-leg stand, which involves standing on one leg and balancing for 10 seconds. Everyone should be able to do that and for those under 65, Harlow asks them to do it with their eyes closed.

Despite the job market hiring fewer entry-level roles, employers are still looking for grads…

But you should be prepared to keep an open mind.

We’ve compiled the sectors hiring graduate roles, what degree is required, and what they pay.

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The degrees to choose for a career

Hiring in the UK could
finally be on the up

47%

of employers offered entry-level
positions from July.

That is up nearly 15 per cent from the same period last year.

700,000

But graduate unemployment rose to six per cent in 2025 and 700,000 jobless graduates were claiming benefits.

Finance and insurance

  • Around 42 per cent of UK finance and insurance employers say they will be open to graduate roles this summer.
  • Business loan company Portman Finance Group has taken on 50 graduates over the past four years.
A lot of thought needs to be put into transferring a DB pension to a DC pot

Portman graduates start on £36,000 for the two-year programme and the education you need to apply is a minimum “ABB” of A-levels, and a 2:1 or above university degree. But not in a specific subject.

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Trade and logistics

What makes it particularly rewarding is that there’s always something to learn.

Nearly half (47 per cent) of trade and logistics companies will be giving graduates a go this year.

Salaries start at £30,000 with an uncapped bonus, rising to £50,000 plus a company car as a senior account partner.

Technology and IT

More than half (52 per cent) of UK tech and IT firms are actively looking for graduates. 

Successful entry-level candidates can earn a basic salary of up to £35,000, with the opportunity to triple that within their first three years of working.

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Public sector, health
and social services 

46 per cent of public sector, health and social services organisations are also ready to take graduates, according to a survey by Manpower. 

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  • For example, Police Now runs a graduate programme into policing. They recruit graduates from any degree field, as long as they achieve a 2:2 or above. Starting salaries range from £31,164 to £42,210 depending on location and rising each year.

Can we treat guests without blowing our budget?

According to Waitrose, a dinner party revival is underway led by younger people trying to reduce the cost of getting together.

Always have bread

People will feast on the
bread, and then need less fish/steak/expensive whatever. All small plates restaurants know this: this is why the first thing on the menu is always artisan bread and butter.

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Use vegetables as centrepieces

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Add pantry items

Graham’s recipes include a braised cabbage with a preserved lemon sauce, a roast cauliflower with saffron, and harrisa roast carrots with mango labneh.

How to host on a budget

Table top view of Indian food.

Improve the everyday

Guests will always appreciate a stellar interpretation of the ordinary. Think lasagna or curry.

Cooking dinner for your guests is spoiling them – you’re being generous with your time, your effort, and your home. So don’t feel the need to go overboard elsewhere.

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Ask for help

Ask friends to bring a contribution, be it a nibble or a pudding.

Big platter energy

[Presentation] can be the key to elevating something . Spaghetti and tomato sauce suddenly looks like a feast when tumbled on a lovely big plate, dressed with olive oil and parmesan and placed in the middle of the table.

Food writer and editor Eleanor Steafel 

How to host on a budget

Taco party

Have one expensive filling, like shredded chicken, and two cheaper options, like refried beans, says Ella Risbridger.

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Shop-bought ice cream is so easily zhuzhed up with the help of handy toppings, says Eleanor Steafel.

Lynsey Crombie @lynsey_queenofclean, home expert and TV presenter

Low-effort tricks for
a cleaner house

While many Britons feel inspired to tackle their homes during summer, the warmer months can also make cleaning harder.

But Lynsey Crombie, known as the Queen of Clean, says the hotter months can increase mould, musty smells and sweaty clothes. 

Here, she shares the tips and practical
hacks she lives by.


A study of 1,000 UK residents by Domestic & General revealed that almost one in 10 Brits have never cleaned their washing machine, yet it could be grubbier than the toilet seat.

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Crombie says after 30 washes, use 500 grams of soda crystals on the hottest wash to clean out the drum. If there’s sludge, run a quick rinse cycle with some white vinegar.

Always make sure to leave the door and drawer ajar for 10 minutes to dry out too and avoid stale smells.

Household ingredients to use

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White vinegar

This is Crombie’s go to. It can descale the kettle and taps and deodorise places in her home.

Table salt

For tough stains like red wine, rub salt into the stain, leave overnight and wash as normal.

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For stubborn water marks, use half a lemon and bicarbonate of soda and leave on for 30 minutes before rinsing.

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Cold water is better

You’re damaging [wooden] floor [with hot water], making it expand, stretch
and cause gaps…

During hot days, Crombie says to avoid cleaning with hot water altogether to avoid adding humidity to the home.

“Cold water is much better, and if you’re using the right floor cleaning product, it’s still going to be clean,” she says.

Hacks for a cleaner home

Three is the magic number

Wash your towels after two to three uses and make sure they dry properly in-between.

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Focus on hotspots

Clean the “high traffic” areas, like the toilets, kitchen worktops and the hallway daily.

Open the windows

To keep a home fresh open the windows for 15 minutes each day – even in colder months.

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Weekly habits

Do it more frequently, to cut down how long it takes

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One task Crombie does weekly is her fridge. This includes a 10-minute wipe-down, focusing on the salad and vegetable tray. “If you save that job up and do it every other month, it’s going to be a very big chore.”

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Hacks for a cleaner home

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Stainless steel

Crombie’s hack is one product: Barkeeper’s Friend in powder form.

The expensive products

“If you spend more money, you get the floral scents. The difference is scent, not performance.”

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Ignore online advice

The biggest issue she sees is product overuse. “You don’t need half a bottle of washing up liquid to clean a surface.”

Crombie’s essentials

Four products can do do a full clean of the house.

  • Antibacterial washing-up liquid: “It can clean almost anything, and any brand works.”
  • : It’s pet-friendly, eco-friendly and “ticks all the boxes.”
  • Cif cream cleaner: “It’s an old school product. It’s so good.”
  • White vinegar: ““It’s great for washing sportswear, gym kits and is a great stain remover.”

Here, mental health experts explain how to avoid stress ruining your holiday, and how to arrive home less frazzled and more relaxed.

Don’t expect to switch to holiday mode immediately

Sarah Hodges, therapy network manager at Headspace, says one of the biggest misconceptions about a holiday is that we should feel relaxed the minute it begins. “Our nervous systems don’t work like a light switch, we need time to shift out of ‘doing’ and into relaxation mode. Instead of rushing to fit everything in, take a walk, unpack and simply let yourself arrive.”

Another suggestion Hodges has may surprise you, especially if you’re used to documenting every moment of your break: “Try not to take a photo for the first 30 minutes after arriving somewhere new. We often shift to document the moment before we give ourselves the opportunity to truly experience it. Give your brain a chance to absorb it first; you’ll often feel more grounded and present.”

Don’t overfill your days

There is a temptation to try and maximise every moment of your time away, especially if you’ve spent a lot of money on your holiday. Still, King says, “Overfilled itineraries, pressure to make the most of every day and the pursuit of a perfect, photographable experience can reproduce the same urgency people hoped to escape.

“A restorative holiday is not necessarily the fullest or most impressive one. It is the holiday that allows enough space for the nervous system to stop looking for the next demand.”

Share the family workload

Even healthy relationships can be strained on holiday, King says. “Couples and families may arrive with unexpressed ideas about how much time they will spend together, what counts as relaxation and who will carry the practical workload. Often there can be pressure for a holiday to make a relationship look perfect too, when being away from your routines can cause stress.”

Dr Nick Zygouris, consultant clinical psychologist at Stronger Minds, says where two adults are travelling together with children, agree on responsibilities before arriving at your destination: “One might focus on the children while the other starts to unpack, before swapping. This prevents one parent from carrying both the mental load and the children’s emotional needs.”

Create a scroll replacement

If you want to take a break from doomscrolling and truly relax, Hodges says, “replace that habit with something equally easy, like people-watching over coffee, picking up a book or listening to local sounds for a few minutes.

“Your brain gets the pause without disappearing into your feed. Most people don’t actually miss their phones; they miss the tiny mental breaks scrolling provides.”

Consider the true cost of the journey home

The final day of your holiday may also be the most exhausting, so Zygouris suggests avoiding trying to fit in one more excursion, a late dinner, drinks and last-minute packing as these can leave everyone stressed before the journey home has even begun.

And while we’re all trying to save money, that 11pm flight home that saves £20 a head is not always the lowest-cost option psychologically, says Zygouris: “Arriving in the early hours and returning immediately to work or school can reduce sleep, patience and emotional resilience. Where affordable, a daytime flight, a more direct journey or an extra day at home may better protect the benefits of the holiday.”

Create a soft landing

One of the biggest mistakes people make is planning every detail of the holiday but giving very little thought to the transition back into ordinary life, according to Zygouris: “We organise flights, accommodation and activities, but often fail to plan how we will move from holiday mode back into work, school, childcare, housework and everyday responsibilities.”

Zygouris says the first 24 hours at home should contain fewer decisions and demands, not more. So prepare an easy meal, breakfast, clean bedding, towels, work or school clothes and transport arrangements before leaving. The aim is not a deep clean; it is to make life easier for your tired future self.

Plan for children’s needs

Children may return overtired, overstimulated or unsettled just as their parents’ patience and mental capacity are depleted. Zygouris says this can create a cycle in which tired children become more demanding, parents become less patient and the whole family becomes increasingly frustrated.

“A familiar film, colouring, books, Lego, simple games, snacks and clean pyjamas can help children settle. They do not necessarily need more entertainment; they often need familiarity, structure, predictability and reassurance that normal routines are returning,” says Zygouris.

Bring something restorative home

If you’ve had a truly relaxing break, but find your stress levels rising as soon as you return to “normal” life, Zygouris suggests continuing one helpful element of the holiday, such as an evening walk, a slower breakfast, a screen-free meal or reading before bed.

He says: “A successful holiday should not simply help people escape their lives; it should reveal what their ordinary lives may be missing.”

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