You’re not imagining it – no one makes eye contact anymore

“Morning!” “Lovely day!” “Gosh it’s hot!” “Glad I brought my brolly!” It may have mostly been about the weather, but when I was a child, I remember everyone spoke to one another. Even strangers acknowledged each other – especially when I visited my relatives in Oldham. 

Nowadays, without making the first move, I could go all day without making eye contact with a person – let alone getting a smile or a simple ‘hello’. There may well still be a North-South divide but over the past few years there has definitely been a decline in the gentle art of acknowledging your fellow humans. 

I first noticed it in my work as a university lecturer, after Covid-19. Students would stare at the ground, no longer open doors for me and grunt back if I offered a jolly greeting. 

When will the heatwave end?

WEST BAY, ENGLAND - JULY 23: In this aerial view, a golfing green and dried grass is seen at Bridport and West Dorset Golf Club, on July 23, 2026 in West Bay, United Kingdom. According to the the National Drought Group, eight areas across southern, central, and eastern England are verging on drought, following a period of "prolonged dry weather," including three heatwaves to hit the region this season. Water companies report seeing a 30% increase in demand for water on the hottest days of the year so far, with more than 20 million households facing hosepipe bans in parts of England and Wales. (Photo by Finnbarr Webster/Getty Images)

Yesterday was the hottest day of the year so far, with temperatures peaking at 38.1°C at Kew Gardens in London as the record-breaking summer continues.

This has been the UK’s hottest summer on record, and yesterday ranked as the UK’s fifth hottest day since records began in 1914.

The relentless heat has been coupled with a prolonged dry spell, leading to drought in many areas of the country, particularly severe in the south.

LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM - AUGUST 13: People seek relief from extreme heat as temperatures reach 36????C in London, United Kingdom on August 13, 2026. The UK Met Office issued an amber heat warning for London and several other areas due to the high temperatures. (Photo by Rasid Necati Aslim/Anadolu via Getty Images)

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Record-breaking heat

  • The 37 days from 30 June to 5 August counted as the UK’s second-longest heatwave.
  • This year, the UK has had at least one heatwave every month since May.
  • The whole of Wales and more than 70 per cent of England is now in drought.
  • Some parts of Hampshire, the Isle of Wight and West Sussex have not had rain for 63 days.

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Drought in pictures

Dead fish from a nearly dried up pond at a housing estate in Pinhoe, Exeter. //Residents have slammed the Environment Agency after reporting fish struggling in a 'rapidly' drying pond - with hundreds already dead due to drought. Videos show fish flapping in just inches of water in a large pond that has nearly dried up at a housing estate in Pinhoe, Exeter.The news comes as almost three-quarters of England is now in drought as weather conditions have become hotter and drier due to climate change - as much of Europe is about to enter its fifth heatwave of the summer.Adrian Clarke, 55, who lives five miles away from the pond, posted pictures of the struggling fish on Facebook when he first saw the sight last Wednesday (5 Aug) and received hundreds of comments from concerned locals. Photo released 14/08/2026
This aerial image shows All Saints Church surrounded by the scorched grass on Blackheath in south east London backdropped in the distance by the business district of Canary Wharf, on July 29, 2026. Just over half of England has been declared in drought after "record-low rain and exceptionally high temperatures", the UK government said on July 29. (Photo by Justin TALLIS / AFP via Getty Images)
Woodhead reservoir near Manchester, England, Thursday, Aug. 13, 2026, as more than two-thirds of the UK suffers under drought conditions. (AP Photo/Jon Super)

When will it end?


  • Met Office chief forecaster Neil Armstrong said temperatures will see “a gradual return to average over the next few days”.

  • Conditions will feel less humid by Saturday, though it will still feel warm.

  • As for some desperately needed rain, the Met Office said some parts may see thunderstorms later today and into Saturday.

  • But the next meaningful rain for the driest areas in the south “could be towards the end of next week”.
A fire "double the size" of a two storey house has blazed through at least six gardens in Tamworth. // Footage shows a ferocious fire roaring across back gardens in the 36C baking hot sun - destroying sheds. Another video depicts the blackened remains of a garden shed that had been engulfed in the flames. Six firefighting units attended the scene and used hose reel jets to extinguish the fire. Firefighters were called at 10.30am on Thursday to Price Avenue following reports of smoke coming from the area. One woman has been taken to hospital after suffering burns. Her injuries are not thought to be life-threatening or life-changing at this time, Staffordshire Fire and Rescue Service said. Kirsty Harper, 39, runs a doggie day care from her home in the area and says she had ?a house full of dogs? when the blaze began. Photo released 13/08/2026

Wildfires tear through West Midlands – the latest


This morning, residents in Stourbridge woke up to the burnt-out shells of neighbouring houses after a night of terrifying wildfires swept through the West Midlands yesterday.

What happened?

  • A huge blaze near Stourbridge Golf Course set six homes on fire yesterday, with 100 firefighters battling the flames.
  • The ambulance service said two people were taken to hospital for smoke inhalation.
  • West Midlands chief fire officer Simon Tuhill said “the devastation is extensive”.

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Yesterday, fire crews also fought off a fire in Stoke-on-Trent where four homes were destroyed.

There were further fires in Warwickshire, Druids Heath and Kings Norton in Birmingham, Salford Priors and Pershore in Worcestershire. A woman was also seriously injured in another blaze in Castle Vale, Birmingham.

STOURBRIDGE, ENGLAND - AUGUST 14: An aerial view shows burnt gardens on August 14, 2026 in Stourbridge, England. During the UK's hottest day of the year, with temperatures soaring to 38.1??C, an extensive wildfire has spread to at least six homes on the edge of the golf course in Stourbridge prompting mass evacuations and leaving two people suffering from heat and smoke inhalation. (Photo by Ryan Jenkinson/Getty Images)
Fire crews working on Racecourse Lane, Stourbridge, near properties damaged by a major fire. Residents across the West Midlands are being urged to stay indoors amid two major fires in the region. Picture date: Thursday August 13, 2026. PA Photo. Photo credit should read: Matthew Cooper/PA Wire

What has the reaction been?

There are now 11 major incidents declared across the UK, many in the West Midlands.

Phil Garrigan, chairman of the National Fire Chiefs Council, told the BBC: “It’s been a particularly difficult, busy period for the fire and rescue service, where we’ve been under significant pressure.”

Smoke rising from a fire in the Stourbridge area. Residents across the West Midlands are being urged to stay indoors amid two major fires in the region. Picture date: Thursday August 13, 2026. PA Photo. Photo credit should read: Jacob King/PA Wire
A burnt-out property on Racecourse Lane, Stourbridge. Several homes in the Racecourse Lane area of Stourbridge were severely damaged by fire, with a smouldering section of adjoining fields being damped down on Thursday night by worried homeowners carrying water in buckets and watering cans. Picture date: Thursday August 13, 2026. PA Photo. Photo credit should read: Matthew Cooper/PA Wire

Prime Minister Andy Burnham said: “Awful to see homes and communities hit by fires across the country tonight as the heatwave continues. My thoughts are with everyone affected.”

How university tuition fees may hit £11,000 a year by 2030

Record numbers of students are set to go to university this year – but they face debts as high as £100,000 when they graduate.

What you need to know

  • Students starting four-year courses this autumn are to see their fees rise by more than £800 in their final year.
  • Tuition fees will reach £9,790 this autumn and £10,050 next year.
  • Keir Starmer’s government said fees would increase with inflation.
  • With these costs, added to the maximum maintenance loan for a student living without their parents in London, the total adds up to nearly £100,000.

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Mounting concerns around cost

Lewis Wilson, vice president at the National Union of Students, said the costs of attending university were “astronomical” and students were left with “mortgage-sized” debts.

“It’s a graduate tax for life, but it’s completely unfair,” he said.

Students celebrating after a graduation ceremony at Edge Hill University, Ormskirk, Lancashire. Edge Hill University was founded in Liverpool in 1885. In 2010 it had three faculties, Education, Health, and Arts and Sciences with a combined total of around 23,000 students. | Location: Ormskirk, Lancashire, England. (Photo by Colin McPherson/Corbis via Getty Images)

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Could the Government backtrack?

Last month, Education Secretary Lucy Powell said the issue of student loans was “very much at the top of my in-tray” and described interest charges on Plan 2 loans as “egregious”.

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LONDON, ENGLAND - JULY 21: Education Secretary Lucy Powell arrives at 10 Downing Street for Prime Minister Andy Burnham's first cabinet meeting, on July 21, 2026 in London, England. Andy Burnham appointed key members of his cabinet yesterday evening after becoming Prime Minister earlier in the day. He has pledged to decentralise power via "No 10 North, provide immediate cost of living "Breathing Space" and to end rough sleeping across England. (Photo by Dan Kitwood/Getty Images)

Iain Mansfield, head of education at the Policy Exchange think-tank, said: “Given the increasing concern about the quality of universities, there is a real question about whether or not they’ll choose to go ahead with it. It feels like a fifty-fifty decision.”

LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM - 2026/08/10: Reform UK leader Nigel Farage attends a press conference setting out plans to remove foreign nationals from British prisons in a bid to ease overcrowding. (Photo by Dinendra Haria/SOPA Images/LightRocket via Getty Images)

What you need to know as Farage wins Clacton by-election


The Reform UK leader claimed an “overwhelming” victory – but refused to attend the count for safety reasons.

A party spokesperson said there had been a “credible threat” made against him.

Everything you need to know

Reform UK leader Nigel Farage speaking during a press conference at Royal Horseguards Hotel in central London. Picture date: Monday August 10, 2026. PA Photo. Photo credit should read: James Manning/PA Wire

How did Farage do?

Farage won 22,239 votes in the by-election, securing a majority of 63 per cent.

What about Binface?

The satirical candidate Count Binface received 9,455 votes (27 per cent).

Candidate Count Binface poses for the media during the Clacton by-election count at the Leisure Centre in Clacton on Sea, England, Friday, Aug. 14, 2026.(AP Photo/Richard Pelham)
Candidates, including Count Binface (5L), listen to the results for the by-election result for the parliamentary seat of Clacton, at the count centre venue, the Clacton Leisure Centre, eastern England on August 14, 2026. (Photo by Henry NICHOLLS / AFP via Getty Images)

Who was he facing?

There were a record-breaking 34 candidates on the ballot on Thursday, though none from the main parties.

What has the reaction been?

Britain's Reform UK party leader Nigel Farage arrives at a polling station in Walton on the Naze, Thursday, Aug. 13, 2026 to cast his vote for the Clacton on Sea by-election.(AP Photo/Richard Pelham)

In a brief statement posted on X, the Reform leader said: “The result in Clacton speaks for itself.”

By contrast, the Liberal Democrats said Farage had come away from the election “looking daft”, as most people “who fight against a bin” would.

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Finance probe re-opens

  • Part of Farage’s reasoning behind his abrupt resignation last month was the probe into his financial affairs.
  • He was being investigated by the parliamentary standards committee over the alleged “failure to register an interest”.
  • It concerns a £5m “gift” from a crypto-billionaire in 2024, which Farage did not declare.
  • As he has been re-elected, the probe has reopened.

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This is a hollow victory for Farage. His biggest test is about to begin

Farage has defeated a bin but questions still remain over his and Reform’s finances.

Do some foods leave
you feeling hungry rather than satiated? Experts say there are…

Foods that leave you hungrier

A bowl of cereal and glass of orange juice

More refined cereals are digested quickly, and fruit juice, whilst one of your five-a-day, contains less fibre than whole fruit. This might mean you find yourself hungry again within 1-2 hours of eating this breakfast.

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Swap the orange juice for a whole orange, the cereal for oats and milk or serve it with Greek yoghurt or a boiled egg. This would increase the fibre and protein content; two nutrients strongly linked with fullness.

Foods that leave you hungrier

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These pastries are made primarily from refined flour and butter, and are relatively low in protein and fibre.

Toast and jam

Toasted bread and white background
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Shop-bought packs can contain a lot of white rice, which is digested quickly, and the protein content is often modest.

Foods that leave you hungrier

Sarawak laksa is one of many varieties of this noodle soup (Photo: Tham Kee Chuan/Getty)

Vegetable soup

On its own, it is often very low in protein and calories, so hunger can return quickly.

Unless it’s loaded with veggies, it’s probably pretty low in fibre.

WASHINGTON, DC - AUGUST 12: Chocolate Milkshake Smoothies photographed for Food in Washington, DC on August 12, 2024 (Photo by Scott Suchman for The Washington Post via Getty Images; food styling by Lisa Cherkasky for The Washington Post via Getty Images)

Liquids are generally less filling as they require little chewing which may not trigger satiety signals.

Foods that leave you hungrier

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Snack bars

They are ideal for a quick pick-me-up, but if reducing hunger is what you’re after, it’d be better to swap it out.

Low-fat yoghurt

A full-fat plain Greek yoghurt with berries and seeds tends to be much more filling due to the protein, fat and fibre.

Which yoghurts are the best options? (Unsplash)
BANGKOK, THAILAND - OCTOBER 17: A "KT Herbalist", a Kratom cocktail made from Kratom, coffee and siamese herbs is seen at Teens of Thailand, a bar in Bangkok's Chinatown on October 17, 2021 in Bangkok, Thailand. In April 2021, the start of Thailand's third and most deadly wave of the COVID-19 pandemic, the Thai government banned the sale of alcohol in restaurants and bars, crippling the already suffering food and beverage industry. With a lack of government aid and support, some bars have shuttered their doors in hopes of reopening post-lockdown, while others shuttered their doors for good. But six months into Thailand's most recent lockdown, Niks Anuman-Rajadhon, owner of Teens of Thailand, a gin bar located in a renovated shophouse in Bangkok's Chinatown, decided that instead of waiting for the government to allow the sale of alcohol again, they would take advantage of Thailand's recent legalization of Kratom. Kratom is a locally grown herbal drug with mild opioid and stimulant effects and was reclassified from a type-5 narcotic to a legal-to-grow herb in August 2021. While Thailand prepares for a tentative reopening on November 1st, the alcohol ban and curfew are set to continue, leaving business owners questioning if the country can revive its suffering tourism industry. (Photo by Lauren DeCicca/Getty Images)

On an empty stomach, it can actually increase your appetite.

What to eat instead

Instead of thinking about avoiding foods, think about what you can add to them.

  • Add beans, lentils or shredded chicken to your vegetable soup and pasta.
  • Thicken your smoothies with Greek yoghurt, chia seeds and oats.
  • Apple slices with peanut butter, yogurt with berries and hummus with oat biscuits are better snack options than a pre-made snack bar.
  • Have alcohol alongside a balanced meal containing protein and fibre.

How to age well
without pain

Will Harlow, a physiotherapist
for the over-50s and author of Independence for Life, shares
the key signs you’re ageing
badly – and what to do about it.

How to know

Ageing well is maintaining the ability to do what you want you want for as long as you want without needing help. Everyone is talking about longevity but what’s the point in living longer if the last decade is painful and you’re [totally] reliant on people?”

The signs to look out for

Senior woman on sofa feeling and suffering from back pain. - stock photo
  • The most obvious early warning sign of bad ageing is pain says Harlow. 
  • Another is losing confidence in doing daily tasks, which can quickly lead to a lack of independence.
  • One call Harlow often receives is people calling after having a fall and struggling to get up.

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How to age without pain

Not just stopping

When people retire, they often put their feet up and stop. Your body really is use it or lose it.

Throughout our entire lives, Harlow says we need between seven and nine hours of sleep.

Tired mature woman taking a nap on the sofa in the living room
Maribel Ezcurra, 77, a retired milling machine mechanic, practices tai chi with fellow seniors in a park in the Playa neighborhood of Havana, Cuba, Wednesday, April 15, 2026. (AP Photo/Ramon Espinosa)

Social isolation

The lack of connection can increase the risk of premature death by
as much as 29 per cent.

Strength training

It really is the proxy for
overall independence.

The more muscle mass you have, the less chance of heart disease, diabetes, falls and even anxiety, depression and dementia. 

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The brain can be linked to muscle mass too, Harlow says. It’s not just about being able to lift things. It gives you more energy, better sleep and you’ll look and feel better.

How to age without pain

Daily habits

Do short bursts of exercise, between 30 and 60 seconds, in otherwise dead time during the day.

Elderly woman exercising in a public park
A mature man rouses in the early morning light, stretching as he wakes.

Stretch in bed

Take joints through a full range of motion for five minutes to loosen it before getting up.

Don’t crash diet

A woman adds up food calorie counts in her kitchen

How to age without pain

Protein shake and chocolate protein powder in a scoop, Sports nutrition.

Harlow advises 1.6 grams per kilogram of body weight to stop muscle loss alongside resistance training.

Don’t wait

Harlow finds that many patients put off making a change to their lifestyle until their lives are consumed by pain. 

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For most people, it’s about reducing the number of times per week you’re exercising, not reducing intensity. 

The three ageing tests to do

  • Lie completely flat on the floor and get back up to a standing position using any technique. This should take less than 10 seconds.

  • See how many times you can sit on the chair and stand back up again in 30 seconds. Men should be aiming for more than 14 times and women 12. 

  • The single-leg stand, which involves standing on one leg and balancing for 10 seconds. Everyone should be able to do that and for those under 65, Harlow asks them to do it with their eyes closed.

Despite the job market hiring fewer entry-level roles, employers are still looking for grads…

But you should be prepared to keep an open mind.

We’ve compiled the sectors hiring graduate roles, what degree is required, and what they pay.

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The degrees to choose for a career

Hiring in the UK could
finally be on the up

47%

of employers offered entry-level
positions from July.

That is up nearly 15 per cent from the same period last year.

700,000

But graduate unemployment rose to six per cent in 2025 and 700,000 jobless graduates were claiming benefits.

Finance and insurance

  • Around 42 per cent of UK finance and insurance employers say they will be open to graduate roles this summer.
  • Business loan company Portman Finance Group has taken on 50 graduates over the past four years.
A lot of thought needs to be put into transferring a DB pension to a DC pot

Portman graduates start on £36,000 for the two-year programme and the education you need to apply is a minimum “ABB” of A-levels, and a 2:1 or above university degree. But not in a specific subject.

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Trade and logistics

What makes it particularly rewarding is that there’s always something to learn.

Nearly half (47 per cent) of trade and logistics companies will be giving graduates a go this year.

Salaries start at £30,000 with an uncapped bonus, rising to £50,000 plus a company car as a senior account partner.

Technology and IT

More than half (52 per cent) of UK tech and IT firms are actively looking for graduates. 

Successful entry-level candidates can earn a basic salary of up to £35,000, with the opportunity to triple that within their first three years of working.

Young business woman searching for job online. Woman writing resume on laptop.

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Public sector, health
and social services 

46 per cent of public sector, health and social services organisations are also ready to take graduates, according to a survey by Manpower. 

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  • For example, Police Now runs a graduate programme into policing. They recruit graduates from any degree field, as long as they achieve a 2:2 or above. Starting salaries range from £31,164 to £42,210 depending on location and rising each year.

Can we treat guests without blowing our budget?

According to Waitrose, a dinner party revival is underway led by younger people trying to reduce the cost of getting together.

Always have bread

People will feast on the
bread, and then need less fish/steak/expensive whatever. All small plates restaurants know this: this is why the first thing on the menu is always artisan bread and butter.

ELLA RISBRIDGER, AUTHOR OF THE KITCHEN BOOK – GOOD FOOD FOR EVERY DAY
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Use vegetables as centrepieces

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Add pantry items

Graham’s recipes include a braised cabbage with a preserved lemon sauce, a roast cauliflower with saffron, and harrisa roast carrots with mango labneh.

How to host on a budget

Table top view of Indian food.

Improve the everyday

Guests will always appreciate a stellar interpretation of the ordinary. Think lasagna or curry.

Cooking dinner for your guests is spoiling them – you’re being generous with your time, your effort, and your home. So don’t feel the need to go overboard elsewhere.

A group of friends is toasting together during a dinner party. They are smiling, celebrating together.
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Ask for help

Ask friends to bring a contribution, be it a nibble or a pudding.

Big platter energy

[Presentation] can be the key to elevating something . Spaghetti and tomato sauce suddenly looks like a feast when tumbled on a lovely big plate, dressed with olive oil and parmesan and placed in the middle of the table.

Food writer and editor Eleanor Steafel 

How to host on a budget

Taco party

Have one expensive filling, like shredded chicken, and two cheaper options, like refried beans, says Ella Risbridger.

Traditional ice cream parlours are still going strong (Shutterstock)
Tacos are a popular dish throughout the country (Photo: Daniela White Images/Getty)

Shop-bought ice cream is so easily zhuzhed up with the help of handy toppings, says Eleanor Steafel.

Then trips to London were met with diverted eyes on the platform and silence on the Tube – and even country walks, when there’s no rush or stress to blame, seemed far less social with people focused on the ground, their dog, straight ahead – in fact anywhere other than me.  

Some of this must be due to the impact of lockdowns and social isolation. We were told, after all, to stay clear of others. For people like me, the end of Covid was a time to compensate, get out and chat but those already more socially anxious seemed to get knocked back into themselves. 

Screens no doubt play a role too, as all of us, regardless of where we live or what we do, spend so much more time watching the world through a film of glass rather than seeing the reality of it.  And with this comes headphones designed to absorb us as we listen to people we don’t know talk or sing with no need for us to talk or sing back. All of us have seen people keep their headphones on, or scroll on their phones even as they pay for something in a shop – meaning they can even avoid making eye contact with the person serving them. 

And then there is the fear of strangers. I knew at least two paedophiles when I was a child and the Moors murders were very real for my Northern parents, but I was still encouraged to “be polite” and “say hello” and stranger danger wasn’t really a thing.  But now fear seems to have been passed down through the generations and a friendly smile or joke on a bus can be met with a sense that you are a weirdo. 

So, the smiles and jokes and chat and even eye contact have stopped which may protect us from actual weirdos but also deprive us of the many benefits those simple interactions bring.

Much has been written about our loneliness epidemic, and plenty of evidence shows that small social interactions do wonders to lift our mood. A friendly conversation with a stranger makes us feel more connected and can help challenge our prejudices or stereotypes, helping us find our similarities rather than just differences with the people around us.

Eye contact can be powerful for our wellbeing. Eye-tracking studies show that eye-to-eye contact can trigger positive emotions and activate the “emotion” and “social” sections of our brains. But it can also speak volumes, often at times when we need it the most. A glance on a hot Tube and a raised eyebrow says, “Gosh yes, it is hot in here”.  A look and a smile on a late-night bus says, “I’ve got your back if anything happens” and a friendly nod as you get off the last train home says, “We are here at last’”.

Just acknowledging strangers makes us all less strange – as we recognise that beneath the surface, we are all just people who need to connect. In fact, our brains seem to synchronise when we look directly at each other. And making direct eye contact with another predicts that we are more likely to look again. The more we look the more we want to look.

Eye contact is not just for strangers. It’s also key to managing those who are important to us.  Prolonged looks may bring passion and intimacy, and a simple eyebrow raise and a glance can speak what words often can’t. Families can be full of dynamics, power play, favouritism and games which can seem deeply entrenched and impossible to navigate. But a shared look can be all that’s needed to say, “I see you”, “I see this”, “I know how you feel” or “I’m with you, really”.  I have so often just wanted a nod, a wink or a look to say “I am your witness and I know what is happening here”. That’s often all it takes. 

Watch any wildlife film of our biological relatives or stand in the corner of any café or bar and it is clear that we are social animals who need to communicate and connect.  We may have started on a downward spiral due to Covid or screens or fear but it won’t take much to bring it back.  Just a look or a smile or a nod and the spiral can change direction again. We all need a witness and if we become someone else’s witness then maybe they can become ours back.  

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